Parents have the responsibility of educating their children on issues bordering on sex. It is important to know how to talk to teens about sex because it can be a very difficult task. If parents neglect the role of educating their teenagers on sex, they lose control over what these young ones learn about the subject. This is because they would hear things concerning sex from their friends and from the media. The information from these sources may however not be what the parents would wish.
Talking to teens about sex should be a gradual and continuous process. The talks should be short and done frequently. The problem with having one big talk with teenagers is that the chances of them forgetting most of the things is very high. The talk should be integrated into everyday activity.
You need to prepare before talking to teens about sex. Read the subject, and get more information, and get answers to your own questions before talking to your teen. There are age-appropriate books on sex for parents. You can also practice what you want to discuss with your spouse or partner. This will make it easier to get over any embarrassment when the time comes to talk with your teen.
The talk on sex has to be structured in a progressive manner. Most parents wait for the 'right' moment to talk to their children about sex, but do not know when this right time comes. A parent can begin a conversation on sex with a teen whenever the issue comes up, for instance when sex issues come up while watching television or while on the way back from shopping. The conversation has to be inculcated into daily life activities.
Parents need to be very honest when explaining sex issues to teens. They should open up and answer all their questions without any ambiguity. When parents are in doubt as to answers to particular questions, they need to let the teenagers know and offer to get the answers later.
Information provided to teens on sex has to be very accurate. Trying to scare teenagers with inaccurate information may fail because they would get the right information elsewhere. If this happens, they may not trust the rest of the information which is otherwise true. In situations where the facts contradict the beliefs of the parent, that has to be explained to the teen rather than just imposing the beliefs on them.
The talk on sex should be in the form of a discussion where teens can have the opportunities of asking questions and also express their views. This way, they will learn better. Trying to lecture them may not be the best option, because the parent cannot be sure the teen is listening.
If talking about sex with your teen seems impossible because you are too embarrassed or your teen refuses to listen, try different approaches. You can get age-appropriate sex education books for teens and leave them in your child's bed room. You can also ask a trusted aunt or uncle, or a minister for help. Remember, talking to teenagers about sex can be difficult, but it is important and nothing can replace your influence.
Talking to teens about sex should be a gradual and continuous process. The talks should be short and done frequently. The problem with having one big talk with teenagers is that the chances of them forgetting most of the things is very high. The talk should be integrated into everyday activity.
You need to prepare before talking to teens about sex. Read the subject, and get more information, and get answers to your own questions before talking to your teen. There are age-appropriate books on sex for parents. You can also practice what you want to discuss with your spouse or partner. This will make it easier to get over any embarrassment when the time comes to talk with your teen.
The talk on sex has to be structured in a progressive manner. Most parents wait for the 'right' moment to talk to their children about sex, but do not know when this right time comes. A parent can begin a conversation on sex with a teen whenever the issue comes up, for instance when sex issues come up while watching television or while on the way back from shopping. The conversation has to be inculcated into daily life activities.
Parents need to be very honest when explaining sex issues to teens. They should open up and answer all their questions without any ambiguity. When parents are in doubt as to answers to particular questions, they need to let the teenagers know and offer to get the answers later.
Information provided to teens on sex has to be very accurate. Trying to scare teenagers with inaccurate information may fail because they would get the right information elsewhere. If this happens, they may not trust the rest of the information which is otherwise true. In situations where the facts contradict the beliefs of the parent, that has to be explained to the teen rather than just imposing the beliefs on them.
The talk on sex should be in the form of a discussion where teens can have the opportunities of asking questions and also express their views. This way, they will learn better. Trying to lecture them may not be the best option, because the parent cannot be sure the teen is listening.
If talking about sex with your teen seems impossible because you are too embarrassed or your teen refuses to listen, try different approaches. You can get age-appropriate sex education books for teens and leave them in your child's bed room. You can also ask a trusted aunt or uncle, or a minister for help. Remember, talking to teenagers about sex can be difficult, but it is important and nothing can replace your influence.
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